My husband and I recently celebrated 16 years of marriage. We truly enjoy spending time together, and it seems we are rarely apart. It's a quality that some people may find strange, but I've always thought it strange to marry someone you didn't want to spend lots of time with. It sort of goes with the territory, but anyway, that's a whole other conversation I suppose.
People will often comment on how happy we are, asking "what's the secret?" Secret? Hmmmmm..... My usual reply was that we really try to think of the other person first. However, I've been doing a lot of thinking about that answer. I've decided that it isn't completely accurate. It is only stating the result of the more accurate and true answer.
We have realized that our love is a choice, and that choice has to be made over and over. You may find this shocking, but I'm not perfect. In fact, I can sometimes be a real pain in the butt, but Mark chooses to love me anyway. Likewise, when he's acting like a jerk, I can choose to overlook it and love him. A marriage should be the perfect picture of God's love. We choose to love each other, even when we neither one deserve it. It would be a lie to say that we always choose so well. I already stated we weren't perfect! Sometimes the choice is hard. Sometimes it's easy, but there is always a choice to be made.
I don't always "feel it", and truth be told, I'm sure neither does he. Feelings change all the time, but love is not a feeling. It's a choice. Choose wisely! Your family depends on it.
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